A Real Parent’s Journey With Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Parenting a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) isn’t something you prepare for—it kind of crashes into your life like a juice box hurled across the kitchen. This is a story about what that’s really like. The mess, the meltdowns, the moments of unexpected beauty. It’s not a guide, and it’s definitely not perfect—but if you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, confused, or just plain exhausted trying to love a kid who seems to push you away at every turn… this one’s for you.
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The Juice Box Incident of 2019 (aka my intro & accidental therapy session)
Okay, so picture this: it’s 7:42 AM, I’m already running late, my daughter’s sobbing because I accidentally cut her toast diagonally (monster, I know), and my son—who was five at the time—launches a juice box across the room like a caffeinated quarterback.
Why?
Because it had a green straw instead of a red one.
And in that moment, as grape juice oozed down the fridge like some kind of crime scene… I just sat down on the floor and whispered to myself:
“I think… this might be a little more than ‘normal’ defiance.”
Ever had a moment like that? Where the behavior seems too big for the moment? Like, it’s not about the juice box, right? It’s never about the juice box.
That’s kinda when I started looking into Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). And spoiler alert: I didn’t get answers right away—just a million tabs open, a headache, and one extremely unhelpful parenting book that suggested “staying calm.” (Insert deep, sarcastic laugh here.)